I turned 25 this year. Initially, I wanted to say my life looks very different than what I had imagined it would be but that is not necessarily true. Honestly, the only thing I thought would be different was me being married and I’m okay with that (well, today I’m okay with it; ask me again next week lol). In my 25 years of living, I’ve learned a lot, so here are 25 things I’ve learned by the time I turned 25:
- Life happens
My dad died a month after being diagnosed with cancer. This was life happening and I had to learn to keep living.
- Write everything
I learn so much about myself by going back and reading old journals. I am able to track my personal growth and remind myself how wonderful I was and still am.
- Speak things into existence
If you want something, behave as though you already have it.
- Be yourself
Easier said than done, I know, but at least make the conscious effort to try.
- Talk to your friends
No matter how far away you may live from each other, a call, a text, or Facebook comment can make life better.
- Cherish time spent with family
Visits home are never long enough once you grow up and move away (although after a week or so, it may be long enough).
- Call yourself beautiful and believe it
If you don’t, why should anyone else?
- Trust God
Another easier said than done situation, but it makes life less stressful.
- Be passionate about something
It sucks to be the only person you know who does not have a topic or interest they are excited about and could talk about all day and all night. What do you do and it feels like the very breath of God is breathing through you? (I think Bishop T. D. Jakes posed this question but don’t quote me on that)
- Pay attention
Take in your surroundings, get out of your head, notice what happens to the atmosphere when you enter a room: be present.
- Have fun
Life is no fun if it’s all work and no play.
This world is too big to live out life in a 20 mile radius.
- Take pictures
There’s nothing like looking back on old photos and seeing how far you’ve come (or where you’re trying to go back to).
- Take the blame
You don’t always do everything right all the time, so even if it’s not “mostly” your fault, some of it is.
- Stop thinking
Start doing. Again, get out of your head and experience life
- “What’s the worst that could happen?” is not the best way to justify your actions
I’ve gotten myself into some interesting situations because I asked myself this question. Sometimes it’s not about what’s worst, but what’s best.
- Your gut doesn’t lie
We’ve all gotten that weird feeling and we just ignored it and did what we wanted to do, only to later wish we hadn’t. Or we’ve listened to that inkling and been thankful we did.
- Emotions are constantly changing
We don’t always feel one way all the time (and if you do, there may be some underlying mental health concerns, send me an email). Allow positive emotions to be the place you always come back to, and negative emotions to be fleeting.
- Sleep is good but living is better
I enjoy a good night’s sleep and a nap every once in awhile, but get out and do something too (even if out means moving from your bedroom to your living room; clearly I’m still learning this)
- Know where you stand with people
We all have different personalities and everyone will not click with each other and that’s okay. It’s not about not liking someone; it’s about not necessarily wanting to tell them all your business.
- Go to the doctor
I know your grandmother told you to put some rubbing alcohol on it and it would be alright, but it’s been 2 years… Better safe than sorry (or dead; I’m so dramatic)
- Go to church
I know God lives in your heart and you are the church, but it feels good to be around other believers and after all, you say He’s your father, so why not visit His house?
- Buy quality clothing
I’m not saying go out and spend your whole pay check, but save up to get that really nice shirt or those really nice jeans. You’ll notice the difference. (I’m cheap so I’m happy if this happens every other year)
- Tip well
A good friend of mine told me you can tell a lot about a person by how they tip. If the service was good, let the person know with your wallet, not just your kind words. If you don’t have it, you don’t have it, but as my friends and I always say, “If an extra dollar is going to break your bank, maybe you should have stayed home.”
This is last because it’s something I’m still learning. Enjoy life but make sure you’re doing so responsibly, so you’ll have money to continue doing so in the future.
In conclusion: Live life.