Freshmen year of college I was trying to figure out life and how to be a figure skater (December 2008)

Freshmen year of college I was trying to figure out life and how to be a figure skater (December 2008)

I recently attended a friend’s art show and it was amazing to see him pursuing his dream. It made me reflect on this past month or so, as I struggled with trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, why God put me here. I had considered not only switching jobs, but a complete career change. I even contemplated going back to school! Whether you’re in your senior year of college and unsure about your major or you’ve been at the same job for ten years and want to do something else, here are three tips to help you while you’re figuring out life:

Let Go

Often times, it’s difficult to take a leap of faith, to leave your comfort zone. I recall clearly praying one afternoon, and God telling me to “let it go.” I knew exactly what He was talking about and I said, “okay.” It hasn’t always been that easy for me. I usually don’t let go unless I have clearly outlined where my letting go would take me. But I got tired of trying to figure things out on my own. I got tired of obsessing over every little detail of my life, feeling as though I would miss something if things did not go according to MY plan (not God’s plan). So I let go. I let go of my plan. I let go of how crazy people might think I am. I let go of what was familiar. I thought about the story of Paul and how he was this man who was persecuting Christians, then all of a sudden became a disciple of Christ. He had to let go of who he was before the road to Damascus, to become the man we know him as today. Paul had been known all over for what he had done to Christians, just as we may be known as the therapist or the basketball player or the homemaker, but sometimes we have to let go of those identities to focus on who God called us to be.

Acts 9:18, 20 And immediately there fell from his eyes as it had been scales: and he received sight forthwith, and arose, and was baptized… And straightway he preached Christ in the synagogues, that he is the Son of God.

Trust the Process

Embrace the journey. Stop to smell the roses. People have different ways of saying it but the message remains the same: live life. We spend so much time planning life that we forget to live it. We think if we miss a deadline for an application or we haven’t moved up the corporate ladder as fast as we thought we would, that our lives are over. Once you let go of “the plan,” don’t allow yourself to be consumed with what’s next, enjoy right now. You are doing what you are supposed to be doing. This is not to say we shouldn’t plan for our futures, but we also shouldn’t let the present escape us. You’ve consulted with God and decided you need to find a new job, great! Continue to pray, put out a few applications, look into other careers. Allow this to be part of your day, not all of your day. Take the time to enjoy the parts (or the people) at your current job you do like. If you’re having a hard time getting your mind off of what’s next, pick up that book you bought a year ago, go to that dance class you keep saying you’re going to, take that vacation you’ve been talking about. Keep living. As long as we’re keeping God in the loop, every place we are in life is a step towards where he wants us to be. What we think we want right now, we probably can’t handle right now. Trust the timing, trust the process.

Habakkuk 2:3  For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.

Believe God

You know what God told you, but it’s been weeks since you heard it and fear and doubt (the devil), has crept in. You start questioning if putting in your two weeks notice was the right decision or worry if you wasted your time getting those recommendations for your grad school application. Even with these concerns, you know what God told you. A friend of mine posted a quote the other day which read: “Faith and fear both require you to believe in something you cannot see… You choose.” There have been so many times when I have felt fear, and I allowed myself to think I had to believe that fear, but I have gotten to a place where I believe God. God is bigger than fear. He is bigger than my worries. He is bigger than my dreams. And because I know what he told me, I believe God.

Numbers 23:19  God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?