Recently, I had a conversation with a friend regarding a young man she was interested in and without boring you with all of the details, she basically couldn’t believe someone liked her as much as she liked them and everything actually seemed to be working out. My response? Girl, I’ve been there! So often, we are faithful to God and we think He just ignores our faithfulness. We live as though nothing good is suppose to ever happen to us. We’re just suppose to be alone forever, make enough money to pay our tithes and our bills, go to church, read our bible, and pray. LIES! God wants you to have the desires of your heart, including love.
Let’s be clear, this isn’t a sign you should continue talking to that guy you know is no good for you (the nextflix and chill guy who hasn’t seen the inside of a church in months if not years). No, you leave him alone, in fact, run far away from him. I’m referring to the guy who insist on paying when you go out, who doesn’t mind worshipping next to you every Sunday, who prays for you, who has a job and is constantly pursuing his goals, who looks at you as though you are a queen, who only wants to talk to you, and is never too busy to do so. You deserve that guy. God wants that guy for you. So I say this as your big sister, big cousin, good friend: don’t screw it up! (harsh I know, but someone has to tell you)
Don’t overthink the situation. Stop trying to come up with reasons why this won’t work. Stop trying to compare it to every other blossoming romance that failed. Joshua 1:8 has become one of my favorite scriptures, because it tells me that I play an active role in my life. If I am studying my word, spending time with God, I will make my own way prosperous, including being liked, loved even. A wonderful friend of mine (thank you Kathleen!), mentioned something on Facebook last year that resonated so loudly with me. So often, we want God to speak to us. We want to hear an actual voice or see some sort of sign from God (which He is capable of), but if we have the Holy Ghost, are spending time with Him and consulting Him throughout the day, He is already speaking to us. We are able to go through this world with “God lenses” on, allowing everything we take in to be filtered through Him, including a potential significant other. “God lenses” come with discernment, so the guy who says He’s a Christian or believer (or whatever they want to call themselves), but continually attempts to get you naked, won’t make the cut. “God lenses” won’t allow you to see what you want to see (a cute man crush Monday post), but what He sees (a fully committed, God fearing man, someone who encourages your walk with Christ). This guy could be “the one,” or not, but I assure you that you will never know if you live life waiting for the other shoe to drop instead of being committed to the moment.
This is what you prayed for, a man of God to sweep you off your feet. First and foremost, continue walking with God, but don’t be afraid to enjoy walking with this man. You are “living in blessings that use to be prayer requests” (@evinamiri on Instagram). Let life be great!
Joshua 1:9 Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.
And if that guy you prayed for hasn’t come along yet, consider reading this:
If things are getting pretty serious, consider reading this: