For as long as I can remember I have always loved Valentine’s Day. Every year my mother would gift me with cute socks or a heart shaped something and lots of candy. Even as I got older, and was told as a single person there is nothing to celebrate on Valentine’s Day or it’s just a commercialized holiday that isn’t real (lies they tell), I’ve always looked forward to this time of year. Why? To me, Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love, whether that’s the love between significant others, between a parent and child, between siblings, between friends, or simply love for yourself. What can I say, I love love! Yes, we should show love every day but there is nothing like setting aside time to fully embrace something so important and special. As a single woman (or man), here are two ways to celebrate love this Valentine’s Day:

Do What You Want

Don’t allow this day to make you a hermit crab, shut off from the real world because you’re avoiding all the couples out there. If you want to sit at home and eat ice cream while watching “This is Us,” do that. If you want to hang out at Starbucks, do that. If you want to gather your single friends together and go out to dinner, do that. Do you! Life doesn’t have to stop because you’re single on Valentine’s Day. Lord willing, February 15 will come and more than likely you’ll still be single and still amazing and still worthy of love, so take February 14 to celebrate how amazing and lovable you are in whatever way you see fit.


Use this day to give to the people in your life, whether they are near or far. Buy donuts for the people in the office. Smile at the stranger in the hall. Send your grandma something in the mail. So often, especially as women, we focus on what we can get on this day instead of what we can give. In previous years, I’ve asked my friend to be my Valentine and the homie has always came through for me. We send each other a gift and wish each other a Happy Valentine’s Day. No strings attached just love shown, which is what this day is all about.


My Valentine Buddy (December 2011)

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be a reminder of how single you are but it should remind you that love exists all around us so on February 14 choose to celebrate it!

1 Corinthians 13:2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. (NLT)