I have been on vacation for a couple of days and I still have a few more days to go. Not summer break vacation but vacation, vacation. People who know me well will tell you that I’m always going to make time to do nothing. It doesn’t matter where I am or how many deadlines are approaching or what needs to be graded or what needs to be cleaned, at some point during the course of my day, I’m going to enjoy the company of myself and Jesus and allow the time to pass by. I tell people this is a response to a childhood filled with activities and not much downtime (which I’m grateful for), and what some may call a luxury, I see as necessary.

Often times people think because you’re unmarried and have no kids, you have no life. It can be assumed you’re always available and lonely, so you’re always looking forward to hanging out with others. Somehow people believe you’re never really THAT busy. I assure you, all those things are false; I have plenty to do, all the time. My busy may look different than your busy, but it isn’t any less important or fulfilling. No matter what our everyday lives look like, we all need a break.

Self-care. Unplugging. Decompressing. People call it different things, but whatever you call it, I encourage you to do it. Even if it’s just for ten minutes a day. At this point in my life, I can lay on my couch and watch TV for hours and eat Cheetos for dinner. That’s my form of self-care. Maybe you can take an extra ten minutes in the shower. Or take the long way home. Maybe you can go to dinner by yourself. Or if you’re blessed and highly favored, you may be able to take a whole trip by yourself. And you don’t always have to be alone (that’s just my preference). Have a girls night out with your friends. Go on a double date with your favorite couple or just a date with your favorite person. Some of you with kids, really like your kids, take them out for ice cream on a random Tuesday. We make time for everything else; make time to rest.

Sometimes (not often), I feel guilty for resting. I know I have a million and one things to do and it can feel like life will fall apart if I don’t get it all done in that very moment. I’ve learned to ask myself a few questions to quiet that voice in my head. Will somebody die if I don’t do *insert thing* now? Will I lose my job if *insert thing* doesn’t get done today? Will God feel some kind of way if I don’t do *insert thing*? If the answer is no, it’s highly likely that I’m going to make myself comfy on my couch.

All of us have responsibilities and there are times when we literally cannot afford to take a break. Sometimes the answers to those questions I asked are yes and I have to push through but that doesn’t have to be life as I know it. I’m a master procrastinator because I know whatever needs to get done, will get done… eventually. Although I’m working to procrastinate less, I’m highly committed to living the life God intended me to live which includes resting. Sometimes we cannot afford to not take a break. Read that again then schedule your time of rest.

Genesis 2:2 And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made.

What rest looks like (June 2021)