Whether or not we like it, we are all being affected by this pandemic. We do not have to know anyone personally who’s been infected by the virus or even died from it to feel its impact. We know we wash our hands more frequently and we wear masks everywhere we go and we can’t go and sit down anywhere outside of our homes to enjoy a meal. These slight inconveniences start to add up and can become overwhelming at times. We just want to go back to life as we know it but for too many, there is no such thing. COVID-19 has taken parts of them, they will never get back. I am grateful to have friends who risk their lives and well-being as they do their best to save others in a number of ways. Each of their perspectives helped me to complain a little bit less, knowing that although some states are opening some businesses, there are a lot of people still suffering.
Anthony (Family Therapist)
What’s the most heartbreaking part about this pandemic?
The most heartbreaking part of this pandemic has been seeing these patients suffer and have no one there with them. Families talking with their loved ones through a phone, saying goodbye through FaceTime. It breaks your heart. – Jenn
The most heartbreaking part of this pandemic is seeing people die alone. At the most, we will set up FaceTime or something to let families see their dying loved ones. But for quarantine reasons no visitors are allowed in with patients who have the virus. – Ramone
The most heartbreaking part of this pandemic is the older people that are in lock down in the retirement homes in the city that I work in. Almost all of these people don’t have a lot of family in the area because they are snowbirds and can’t return home and their families can’t visit them. We offer free delivery at my company, but we don’t deliver over-the-counter items so for a lot of the residents, it’s hard for them to get supplies and you can hear the desperation in their voices. Even the delivery driver is scared to deliver to these retirement homes because one of the locations had a case. – Susan
One of the most heartbreaking aspects of this pandemic is hearing about and seeing families who have lost loved ones but were unable to attend their funerals or have optimal support during this time due to social distancing guidelines. It is also extremely difficult to watch people and their families suffer due to not being able to work or provide the level of income necessary to sustain their livelihood at times where depression, uncertainty, and anxiety already have strongholds over their lives. – Anthony
What is most frustrating?
The most frustrating thing is people not taking this seriously, rushing for things to be “back to normal,’ thinking it’s fake news. They are not here at the bedside seeing these people struggling to breathe, flipped on their bellies to allow their lungs more space to expand, on multiple lifesaving medications, and people think it’s a hoax. I wish they could be in our shoes. I’d love to be at home ‘bored” instead of being paranoid 24 hours thinking that I could possibly get my husband or my son sick. – Jenn
The most frustrating thing is seeing all these protesters claiming this is an overreaction or hoax. Some say, “my body, my choice.” Truth is, it isn’t just your body; it’s an entire population safety concern. If it is “American” to only care about yourself, then I don’t want to be American. – Ramone
The most frustrating thing is the misinformation in the media. There was this whole drug regimen of hydroxychloroquine and azithromycin that was a potential cure for the virus. It has no substantial evidence proving that it was effective. It got to the point where we couldn’t order hydroxychloroquine from our wholesaler. They put a hold on the drug. It really affected people who were on it for other medical conditions like rheumatoid arthritis and lupus. We had to limit these patients to 2 weeks supply. – Susan
An area that continues to frustrate me as a responsible member of society is the misinformation, politicization, and polarization of a world crisis that has severe crippling effects at a time where unification and compassion are most needed to build resiliency. It is a daily struggle to help people cope and stay grounded when any time they attempt to amass hope, it is met with confusion from the national and local levels. – Anthony
How have you been personally affected?
My love language is physical touch. [And it’s been difficult] being unable to hug and kiss my family as much as I want to because I’m afraid of getting them sick. [My son and husband] have asthma, so I have to be extra careful and more cautious than most. I have nightmares now and trouble sleeping. It’s mentally and physically exhausting. – Jenn
It’s very difficult to complain since I am lucky enough to still have a job and income. It’s heartbreaking to see what nonessential workers are going through. Yes, it personally sucks to come home to an empty apartment and have very little interaction with the outside world aside from phone calls and FaceTime. I turn 30 next week but unfortunately it won’t be anything more than a small celebration to myself. – Ramone
I just miss the simple things like going out to eat, walking around the mall, seeing my sister. She has asthma and since I work with the public she doesn’t want to be around me. – Susan
Both my aunt and grandmother are in the hospital struggling with the virus at the moment to which we have found different ways as a family to connect, support each other, and yet feel helpless all at the same time. – Anthony
Have there been any highlights?
Our patients are doing better and recovering faster than the national average. We were able to flatten the curve in my state because residents came together and took necessary precautions. We have a bomb ass governor who quickly took action. – Jenn
The highlight of my day is seeing how the non-medical and medical community have really come together through all of this. There is a level of comradery we have not seen before. Local restaurants often cater food to support front line workers. Everyone is doing the best they can in a difficult situation. – Ramone
I am so grateful to still have a job and that my routine hasn’t been interrupted that much. – Susan
There have been quite a few positive takeaways from this crisis as people have found unique ways to come together against a common threat. Families have had opportunities to bond and share in experiences that they have probably not shared in a while or for that matter at all in their lifetime. I have noticed even in my own neighborhood families walking together, walking their dogs, speaking to their neighbors, and others acts of kindness at places like the grocery stores. People have also been more open to seek out therapy services as well as engage in online sessions due to relaxed tele-mental health guidelines, which has allowed for individuals and families to access increased mental health services from their own homes thereby decreasing significant barriers. – Anthony
Colossians 3:14-15 Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. (NLT)